The Universe is Not Your Bitch

And A Few Other Things You Need to Know If We're Going to Be Friends

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5 Ways This Fall Is Going to Rock Your World

’m a big fan of lists. They’re easy to read, present data in a simple-to-understand way, and just look cool. Right? So as we skid toward the Labor Day weekend, the official end of summer, I’m already thinking of fall, and 5 ways this particular fall season is going to seriously rock your world:

1. I’m teaching a new online course called How to Slay Obstacles and Get Past Your Stuckness, beginning on September 10th.

How It Rocks Your World: If you want to enter this new season with a vengeance, and learn some serious tools to move past perceived blocks, this is where you need to be.

2.  Pluto’s going direct on September 20th. On paper, it may not sound like much. But this furthest out planet has the strongest gravitational pull, and is associated with everything from the underworld and darkness to transformation of all kinds.

How It Rocks Your World: Have a major makeover in mind? Pluto can help. Want to trade your stale old job for something spanking new? Look to Pluto. This planet’s direct motion in the sign of Capricorn will help all things requiring structure to move forward.

3. Mercury’s going retrograde in Scorpio. From October 4th through 25th, the communication planet will seem to move backwards in the sky, creating issues with technology and social media.

How It Rocks Your World: In Scorpio, this planet can help you you look within, and use this time to review what’s working in your emotional life, and what may need to shift. It also allows you to see more deeply into yourself and other people, even if their motivations may not always be pure.

4. Jupiter’s going retrograde. On December 8th, this planet of luck and creativity begins its backward movement in the sign of Leo (until early April 2015).

How It Rocks Your World: Examining how you may need to tweak your image, stand up for yourself, allow your light to be seen and appreciated, or just taking credit for your achievements are all highlighted under this aspect. Use these months to plan your red carpet debut, after the first week in April.

5. Uranus is going direct! On December 21st, the winter solstice, this wacky planet of genius and sudden inspiration begins to move forward again, bringing some major energy to the holiday season.

How It Rocks Your World: When Uranus changes direction, it jars loose all your great ideas, your crazy, “couldn’t possibly work scenarios, and inner genius. Even if you don’t follow up on all of these, you’ll be overflowing with excellence. Since it’s in Aries, you’ll also have a lot of energy to make stuff happen!

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How Much Do You Need?

I’m always interested, whenever I’m reading a client trying to make changes to their lives, or even manifest a future they can barely imagine now, that as they image what they want, they often see a static picture. A single photo — them with a new car, for example, or them at the altar with a smiling new bride or groom by their side.

There’s nothing wrong with this, of course. We need to have at least one image in mind so we can bring in what we’re trying to get. As our primary co-creators, the universe, our guides and guardian angels also need something to work from, a kind of blueprint so they can help us get what we’re seeking.

The issue is that the picture in our mind’s eye is often still or static, unmoving and unchanging, which is kind of analogous to 0% of real life. That’s one of the primary reasons I see people failing to manifest substantial changes, from losing weight and getting more fit to bringing in a job that’s meaningful and lucrative at the same time.

Some also leave out the major questions that would be answered in the first paragraph or two of a news story — who, what, when, where and why. Answering these questions can really help spell it out to the universe what you really want. Not what you think the appropriate thing is — what it actually is.

So the next time you’re trying to manifest a substantial change in your life, and only you know what that really is, start out by being honest. If you want money, how much? What would it take to make you feel happy and safe? Have you thought about it? Maybe now’s the time.

Of course, only the universe can determine if this number will come to fruition, but starting from that place strips off months, and potentially years, of unfruitful practice, struggling and banging our heads against the wall, wondering if our karma sucks and why are we do damned unlovable anyway?

How much would it take? When do you need it? Who else is involved, and how flexible can you be on the timing? These are the crucial questions.

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Embodying Your Power

Every once in a while, or pretty much every week, I receive messages from my guides and guardian angels about what to talk about — during my readings and healing sessions, in my online classes and even my new podcast, 10 on the Edge.

Over the past few days, as a famous comedian left us and a young man was shot to death in Missouri, we were served with the sadness and the anger, the mystery of why someone who seemingly had everything would take his own life, and why someone completely unknown could suddenly galvanize a nation.

I’ve been mediating a lot, fielding scores of email questions from impassioned clients all over the world, and handling an expanded schedule of readings and healing sessions. So much for taking a few days off at the end of August. 

I’ve also been channeling a lot, searching for the connecting fibers among these events, and finding that at the root of all these events are the notions of sacrifice and power.

Sometimes, we don’t see the abuse of power, personified so viscerally by the overly militarized police in Ferguson, MO, unless we have a sacrifice. Unfortunately, this often means that the sacrifice is supreme or ultimate, involving loss of life and leaving behind an ocean of suffering from those who loved someone, or came to love them from afar.

What does all this have to do with embodying power, though?

In order to enjoy power in ourselves, we have a few primary needs — to feed and maintain our physical and energetic bodies, to foster connection with others and the universe, and to somehow create our dreams into being. But how do we bring that into the realm of our physical forms? How do we walk around in our power all the time, without surrendering to someone else’s will or being so aggressive we alienate those we need for companionship and connection?

Embodying power means connecting, first and foremost. Agreeing not to cloister yourself from other people, in all their wisdom and imperfection. Maintaining healthy boundaries, but engaging in that give and take of interfacing with others, yet guarding and enjoying our alone time.

I’ll be writing a lot more about power over the next several months. It’s one of the themes of my new book, which comes out next year. Until then, thinking about your power, and racheting that focus down to just what you bring forward with your physical body, provides the perfect starting place.

See what you can bring today, using what you wear, how you look and feel in your body, what you radiate and how you interact physically with the world.

We’ll work our way up from there. 

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What Are You Cultivating?

One of my very favorite on the spot practices is to pause and look within to see which energies you’re cultivating. What you’re feeding or encouraging, either by accepting them, fostering them, or even actively feeding them?

It sounds very simple, but this practice really isn’t.  The looking within isn’t easy. Since most of us are trained not to do this, it takes practice to be able to look within and move beyond that rapidly moving stream of mostly egoic thoughts, feelings, beliefs just below the surface of our conscious minds — in short, the inner monologue we’re all acting out every moment of every single day.

Then it’s tough to be honest with what we find. So often, we’re encouraged and even rewarded for lying to ourselves. Sure, you can eat that and not gain a pound. Sure, you’re really a size 6, as long as we go by brand new sizing guidelines. Absolutely, you can buy anything you want on credit, with no consequences later.

Moving beneath all this, to find out what we’re really doing with our unconscious minds, with our energy and emotions, takes guts. Our emotions are often sticky, messy, less than human somehow. Wouldn’t it just be easier to shove them under the rug, or just ignore them and go shopping? Drink a little wine, maybe space out in front of the TV?

Of course, none of these things is inherently bad. Only when we refuse to acknowledge that we participate in and even co-create our reality with the universe does stuff really start to hit the fan. If we agree to take on that role, doors open, the heavens send opportunities, and most of us are a lot happier and more empowered for it.

Try it. You may find that your old way of being just doesn’t measure up to what you can do when you engage.

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If I Died

No worries. I’m not really gonna die. I mean, yeah, someday, but not anytime soon.  I have way too much to accomplish before crossing over.

But recently, I was sick. Really, really sick. I had to come up against the idea of not being here anymore, and I’m not gonna lie. That was scary as shit. Life-changing scary. Ass-freezing scary. And I moved through it somehow, and came out the other side massively changed. Not just physically, but on a molecular level. Each cell had shifted into some new space that I wasn’t ready for.

But again, I moved through it. I realized how very resilient I am, and I did it.

Since then, I use this time as a spiritual practice. Every few months, I ask myself, “If I died tomorrow, could I live with how my life has been so far? If I had to look back, whether I’m sitting on a cloud, or preparing to be born into another body, could I deal? Really? With no regrets?”

Usually, it’s yes. Mostly yes. Sure, there are times I want to make adjustments — this practice is great for revealing what needs to be worked on — but mostly I’m good with where my life is. Since so much is changing in the world now — I see so many beginnings and endings each day in my practice — it’s only fitting that we practice learning to hold on and learning to let go, over and over again, until we get really good at both of them. Many of us get the holding on part, only to fail miserably at the letting go.

Being truly healthy, and truly able to navigate the complex world of spirituality and manifestation, we need to have both of these skills. Using practices like this may not be for everyone, but I’ve found it really helpful in making these muscles stronger and, maybe ironically, make me more comfortable with the idea of possibly experiencing loss every once in a while. From there, it’s smoother sailing, with less difficult lessons to take on board.

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Happy, Happy Joy, Joy

You know those times in your life, when an unexpected check arrives in the mail, or lights seems to turn green instead of red, or opportunities just drop out of the sky? You just want to dance like these guys, with their extremely flexible bodies, right?

Me, too!

The issue most of us have is that we overlook these moments, or enjoy then for 10 seconds and then move on to the next things we want, or think we’ve been overlooked for, or just feel cheated out of in life.

What the … ?

The universe is a benevolent operation, not some twisted version of the Mafia, extorting our joy in exchange for paltry results. We don’t need to pay out in happiness points for “protection” from disappointment later. But that’s, in many instances, how we operate. We expect for things to be taken from us later. We put it out to the universe that we know the other shoes’s gonna drop eventually. So it does, to our eternal dismay.

The state of Happy, Happy Joy, Joy for Ren & Stimpy may mean a snack. Their world is pretty small. But if we make ours that way, pausing to really embrace the good fortune we enjoy, and offer maybe a little wave of gratitude, shows the universe, “I see what you did right there. I saw it and appreciated it and, maybe next time, I’ll ask for something a little bigger. Is that cool with you?

Knowing the universe the way I do, chances are it’s down for what you have in mind. Manifesting is soooo much easier when you do it this way.

May your journeys all have snacks, love, luck and dancing!

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Holy Uranus Retrograde!

Just when you thought it was safe astrologically, another planet just turned retrograde. But fear not! It’s always my contention that working with the energy of the planets is the smartest way to approach things. Pushing against something with greater mass and energy may not be the most intelligent play here. After all, the planet we’re talking about is Uranus.

Uranus is one of the transpersonal planets, lying on the outskirts of the zodiac. It’s generational, meaning that your parents probably have Uranus in one sign, and you have it in another. So it doesn’t color your personality as much as it determines how you will act and achieve within the scope of your generation.

It’s currently moving through the sign of Aries, which gives it a rather fiery and explosive feel. Under its reign, we’ve seen large-scale shootings and resulting aftermaths, debates over gun control in government circles, and renewed talks about how to handle our borders.

Uranus governs our ability to be unique, independent and forward-thinking. Steve Jobs was very Uranian. So was Jack Kevorkian. Both had a kind of maverick spirit that defined their work and their message.

When it goes retrograde, the best use of the energy is to revisit or refine the areas of our lives that are most individualistic or forward-thinking. What may need more work so we can move ahead with greater success. Maybe we have a project and the world isn’t quite ready for it. But by the time the transit ends, on December 21st of this year, the path is clear for it to take off. Maybe we go back into the past, reconnecting with others we knew before, in order to jumpstart something now. Similarly, our ideas, jobs, relationships and finances may be affected by the need to embrace more independence and critical thinking.

It’s not the best time to go off wildly by yourself. Aries wants to charge ahead no matter what, but it’s this sign’s opposite, Libra, which provides the chance to operate in partnerships with others. These become super important for the next few months, as we strive to make headway with our goals and dreams.

Of course, it will affect you most wherever you have Uranus, or if transiting Uranus will affect an angle or natal planet. Wishing you the best possible use of this sometimes challenging but always interesting planet!

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I don’t have to tell you that there have been a great number of changes in the sky of late. If you read this blog, you know that, astrologically speaking, we’ve been moving through an unprecedented time of late. The planets are moving forward and back, and our lives and emotions adjust accordingly. We blame the economy, love, luck — whatever. But what’s behind these changes is something a lot deeper than that.

Some of you may know that I do a monthly channeled teleconference with Gnos, an entity made up of several souls not longer incarnate on the physical plane. In striving to combine forces, they’ve offered themselves as a kind of living library, to help people see current events in the context of history, and realize that they have more control over what happens next than they may realize.

Last night’s call was especially interesting (it’ll be available in the store as a download by Monday). Gnos spoke about Kali Yuga, a time of distress, darkness and decay, indicating how several of our ruined cities are already reminders of what can come if we’re not proactive. but they also outlined steps we can take to mitigate the creep of this decay. At the core of this teaching was acceptance of change. Sounds simple, but it’s anything but.

Accepting that things may be uncomfortable, that they may need to be this way for a while, is part of the battle. Not taking it personally when our dreams are deferred, or denied, or even challenged, is the second part of this. Miracles happen when energies accrete. When we join forces with others to affect change right back, we’re more powerful than we know.

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The Season of Directs

After a hellacious spring filled with difficult (to put it mildly) aspects, we’re slowly emerging from the haze of several retrograde planets. To recap, this is when planets appear to be moving backward in the sky, and bring a sense of stuck energy or increased obstacles to whatever we’re trying to achieve.

Mercury went direct on July 1st in the sign of Gemini, where it will remain until July 13th. This will mean that, slowly but surely, as this Messenger planet returns to its retrograde degree, that things will begin to feel more relaxed, more on track and moving forward again. We’ll have fewer dropped calls and more reasons to celebrate.

The next transpersonal, or outer, planet to go direct will be Saturn, which will move forward on July 20th. Since Saturn rules limitations, regulations, parameters and structure, this retrograde time has been about shoring up any structures in our lives, any rules we live by, anything we count on. This planet will go direct in the sign of Scorpio, a Water Sign, meaning that our regulations, limits and structures may also be emotional in nature, or even metaphysical. This may mean that stronger or more appropriate boundaries are in order, or that learning to say NO is the rule of the day. Whatever the case in your life, it’s imperative to use these last several days consciously, to look deep within (Scorpio) to use Saturn’s energy wisely.

The next planet to flip during this season of “directs” will be powerhouse Pluto, on September 22nd. That will bring huge transformation to all things Capricorn, including tradition, banking, the law and the power of the dollar. Between now and then, it’s best to shore up any areas of your chart (and your life) that need the sense of things being “the way they’ve always been.” This area will be tested more than any other as Pluto goes direct and moves through the rest of its run in Capricorn.

Enjoy your own season of “directs,” wherever it takes you. Just be a little extra careful on the road, or while traveling. Planets changing direction can be a little confusing, if you’re not paying complete attention.

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